Thank you, NEXT!?
Listening to Ariana Grande sing her latest song “Thank you, next I’m so f—–‘ grateful for my ex ” made me think about what I could possibly be thankful for in relation to my Mr Ex. For those of you who don’t know about my journey: Mr Ex, cruelly pulled the rug from out under my feet, my foundation – after 17 years together. So, after a little soul searching and digging deep trying look past the devastation he left behind, I was able to list a few!
Yes, this would have been impossible to do approximately 6 years ago!!
As I write this article, I ponder over the fact that this is still ACTUAL therapy even thinking about this and typing, just as boxing was when I first took it on post-separation!
I must say that even though I am thankful to my ex, I still seem to struggle about the human capability of one human to drop and replace a partner they have shared their life with after 17 years for someone else so QUICKLY! I find myself still working through this particular part, so I may need to write about “THAT” topic when I am wiser!
Here are 5 things I thank you for, Mr Ex:
1. My Babies
The most amazing GIFT he gave me. I would have gone through all I did a million times over to have had my babies. From the word go they were the most perfect humans (OK, a little biased!)
2. The Firsts of a lot of things!
Mr Ex introduced me to a lot of new things! Things like rides on catamarans, weekends away, being treated like a lady (I was 19 and had no idea! I was still a child!), firsts tastes for the finer things in life (as he was from a “comfortable” family). I had my FIRST glass of champagne with his family!
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3. My first engagement ring:
It was small however it was EXPENSIVE, and he made sure that he got the one I liked!
4. His family:
They were some of the most decent humans I have ever met even to this day. He was lucky to have called them his parents and for me an extended family (whilst I was part of it!) Ok, so his “family” felt they had to choose sides and therefore I was slowly “let go”. During my time with them they taught me how to be a good parent, and also how to eat dinner as a family and so much more! Thank you, for always coming in on a Tuesday at 7am to our home to take care of my young kids all day so I could go to work.
The spiral into separation was cruel, HOWEVER the result has been more than anything I could have dreamed about! Separation gave me a rebirth, and a life which made my previous life look like a long hibernation! I feel MORE in everything. Whilst the separation had HUGE impacts, most of it was a little beyond my control. My situation evolved from my Mr Ex making choices that suited him only, and therefore I was the recipient. So, Thank you to my Ex!
Despite the 5 things above being positive, the journey to say “Thank you” to my ex has been a very tough one at times (especially at the beginning). It has taken me quite a few years of self-discovery and time to heal for me to appreciate the positives. My hope for others is that this discovery, is bestowed upon you sooner rather than later. Being in a positive state of mind is far better for your vibe and then the rest just flows!
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ABOUT the Blogger:
My name is Anju, after going through a “surprise” separation and divorce was a rebirth which awakened me! After a period of sadness and struggle, revealed a person who was forced to sort her shi# out and find the strength needed to raise 2 young kids without a partner!
And so, a new journey began with new dreams: www.TheSeparationExchange.com
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