A mothers perspective:
Keep the "Normal" Routine:
as much as possible…Whilst it maybe hard to maintain regular routines with your pre-separation life where two people were available to share the logistics, for my kids: keeping the routine really helped! eg. Same after school activities, dinner & bath routine, story time etc. This allows the kids to maintain some form of “normal” during such life altering situation. Finances and the ability to spread yourself thin to be able to maintain the logistics do get tricky BUT this really helped the vibe that my kids had during such a horrible time accepting not seeing their dad each day like they were used to.
such as play dates or extra curricular activities to alleviate the re-adjustment period when it is all very new. Distractions wont remove the pain or anxiety but it may help. A new sport or after school activity or setting up regular play dates which don’t cost any money if having them at home.
Have open conversations:
about the changes regularly to enable the kids to articulate their feelings. Each night after dinner “our thing” was for the my two kids and I to jump into bed and read or watch tv together. I took this time to dive into their days while stealing as many cuddles as I could. Even now, though they are older and the bed is more crowded… we still do this, it is one of my most favourite times of the day!
Make sure you look after YOU:
to ensure you are able to be there for the kids you need to stay healthy. While the weekends i didn’t have the kids were busy and working full time..i did try to make some “me” time. While not cooking ahead for the week, and doing the usual catch-up on chores, I woke up early and did BOXING, or caught up with friends and attempted to make new ones
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