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Tips to combat the negative impacts of separation on Teens!

Tips to combat the negative impacts of separation on Teens!

How do we enter their world? As parents we often forget that our children are watching our every move and model our actions, words and behaviours.  So, when our lives are altered in a certain way such as parents separating or divorcing, we forget how much they observe...

3 SEXY Tips to get your MOJO back Post-Separation

3 SEXY Tips to get your MOJO back Post-Separation

Say WHAT!? OK, so during such a potentially HORRID time your MOJO maybe the LAST thing on your mind but perhaps understanding that your MOJO is part of YOU may help put more focus on the topic? YOU need to be OK, before other things fall into place (least that is my...

How can counselling help my child during Separation?

How can counselling help my child during Separation?

Let's chat about the basics: As a child and family counsellor I have found that a major proportion of our referrals (and my clients) are children from separated families. What this often means is either that children are experiencing more challenging emotions (that...

Dear Newly Separated, here are 5 things you MUST know!

Dear Newly Separated, here are 5 things you MUST know!

The News is OUT! OK, so it is now out in the open that you are separated? You may be feeling overwhelmed, scared, hurt, angry lonely and overwhelmed. After having been through separation myself I can say that life can be BETTER! Yes, roll your eyes and say WT#! she...

6 Tips to get your Ex to AGREE to Separation Mediation

6 Tips to get your Ex to AGREE to Separation Mediation

How to Agree? If you are going through a separation or divorce, you might be thinking about mediation. Mediation is a simple and straightforward process that allows you to move on quickly and easily, without having to fight everything out in the courts. But what if...

Dad’s Guide to Family Law and Separation

Dad’s Guide to Family Law and Separation

Understanding Your Rights Going through a separation never easy, particularly when there are children involved.  It is not possible for care arrangements to continue as they were when parties were together, and it is often difficult to come to agreement that both...

How to support a friend going through Separation

How to support a friend going through Separation

Here's the "CONTEXT" Separation is one of the hardest events that one could potentially go through, and depending on the circumstances one could be given a HUGE blow that is challenging to get through. What does this mean? Some come to a mutual agreement to separate,...

10 Tips on How to Tell Kids you are SEPARATING

10 Tips on How to Tell Kids you are SEPARATING

“Do I have to choose where to live?” This is the type of question you don’t want your kids asking you, as it could reflect the potential anxiety your kids maybe under. So, let me tell you about my situation and how you should NOT tell your kids that you are separating...

EXPERT Observations on the Impact of Separation on Children

EXPERT Observations on the Impact of Separation on Children

From the outside looking in: When you are entrenched in the battle field that a separation/divorce can be it is hard to imagine what it looks like from anyone else’s perspective that is not yours. What are the impacts of Separation on Children that we may not see?...

How to AVOID Separation and be HAPPY

How to AVOID Separation and be HAPPY

How to Stay Happily Married... It is unfortunate every time we hear another friend or even a family member going through a separation of divorce. We meet, fall in love, marry and start our happy life together. Over the years something seems to happen resulting in the...

3 SURVIVAL Tips for Valentine’s Day, when you are Separated!

3 SURVIVAL Tips for Valentine’s Day, when you are Separated!

LOVE Bites... After the Christmas retail rush, we have Valentine’s Day people! The chocolates, the teddy bears, the lingerie! Argh! The constant reminders of the day when all you are trying to do just after you may have separated, is get through each day as a single...

Separation Finances : 6 Tips to get you on TOP!

Separation Finances : 6 Tips to get you on TOP!

The NEW plan! One of the hardest parts of separating is that it wasn’t the original plan.  It wasn’t even the backup plan.  In fact, you might find yourself looking quite unexpectedly at a future that is significantly different to the one you had in mind.  Separations...

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Separation: Should I STAY? Should i GO?

Separation: Should I STAY? Should i GO?

The Cross road.. Should I stay in my relationship? Or Should I leave? So many of us struggle to answer this question. It is a daunting question and one that often feels like there is not a clear or easy answer. Let's look at what you should consider before making a...

10 Tried & Tested Tips for Christmas POST Separation!

10 Tried & Tested Tips for Christmas POST Separation!

Christmas Discussions: Christmas or any holidays post separation can be excruciating, especially when it is FRESH! Some have it lucky and may breeze through it however most may agree with me, that it is EMOTIONAL. The first Christmas Post-Separation was excruciating!...

How to TAME emotions with your Ex in Separation

How to TAME emotions with your Ex in Separation

"The Separation Vortex" Anyone who has been through a separation or divorce knows that the emotional ride that it takes you on can be like no other! The time period just after Separation can be the most trying, sorting out the emotional reality of the demise of your...

5 Essential Self Care Rituals for the Single Parent

5 Essential Self Care Rituals for the Single Parent

How do i make time? Being a single parent is not only a constant juggling act but an art that can sometimes take years to get the balance right. In my experience, the most important lesson is that: "You can only give your best to others if you are in touch with the...

5 Tips Men NEED to know about Separation

5 Tips Men NEED to know about Separation

Tips for survival and how to “get it right” There is little doubt that divorce is one of the most devastating events a man can endure in his lifetime. Many men have described the experience as similar to a sudden death in the family. If you are in this situation, you...

6 Tips for navigating a child’s emotions in Separation

6 Tips for navigating a child’s emotions in Separation

Separation EMOTIONS: Emotions are tricky things…….sometimes even adults can’t handle emotions!! Annoyed, happy, angry, frustrated, hurt, sad, scared, excited, nervous…….so many different feelings. So many situations, and we all respond differently. Children gain...

7 ways a divorce coach can help during separation

7 ways a divorce coach can help during separation

WHO are they? What do they do? If you have no idea what a divorce coach is – you aren’t alone.  Divorce coaching as a profession is still relatively new across the world and even newer to Australia. So how can working with a divorce coach help you? Here are 7 ways a...

3 Tips for Self-Representing in Court during Separation

3 Tips for Self-Representing in Court during Separation

What are they?! Having worked with clients who self-represent for over 10 years, there are three things that will stand out and be imperative to get right before you head down the road of self-representing.  This may sound daunting and overwhelming because it is new,...

3 Areas to combat Loneliness in Separation

3 Areas to combat Loneliness in Separation

The disconnect I am no expert in “connection” however when I was going through separation I found it very challenging and draining at times to “connect” with the people around me. Let me explain. During the early days of separation, the days after my Mr Ex and I had...

Mediation: 4 Tips during Separation

Mediation: 4 Tips during Separation

How is Mediation used in Separation? You may be devastated and quite possibly inconsolable over the break down of your relationship.  This was not what you planned. ‘Marriage vows aren’t ‘until divorce do we part’! Despite this, separation does not mean your world is...

Things Children want to tell you during Separation

Things Children want to tell you during Separation

A "little" voice: During separation, children are sometimes the forgotten participants of what is a major event in their lives. Most of us adults during separation, go through at least a small time period where we become almost teenage like in our conflicts with our...

Separation: A Father’s Perspective

Separation: A Father’s Perspective

Insight: The hardest thing about being a separated father, is being able to get on with your life whilst not seeing your kids as much…or at all. The breakup can mean many things to men and the challenges can vary. For some, it’s a representation of where everything...